When Nick and I began courting 8 years ago one thing that really drew me to him was how he was with his family and the future I saw with him as a dad one day. Nick has a great relationship with his sisters, mom, and his whole family and his kindness and love for them and for my own mom and sisters demonstrated to me the love he would show our future kids. 8 years and 3 kids later he has not let me down. So in honor of Father's Day, I wanted to share a few mundane things he does on a daily basis that I might sometimes overlook. All of these tasks have made our family and our kids grow for the better. Thanks be to God for giving me such a great and handsome ;) husband.
1. Nick and the boys always wrestle right when he walks through the door. The boys know that wrestling is for just boys (I don't want them tackling a girl) and Nick and the boys love getting some energy out doing something in the boys club.
2. Every day after dinner Nick bathes the boys and puts them to bed. Since I am a SAHM I often need a few minutes to myself to pick up the house and be in silence so bath and bedtime being his routine with the older boys have been such a help to me. It is also a way Nick gets to spend more time with the kids before bed (7:30 pm bedtime).
3. He still pursues me and looks at me with love. Raising boys is a big responsibility and I love that Nick demonstrates how to love a woman by showing me such care. I hope our boys always remember how gentle he is with me and that through the good and bad him and I are always on the same team.
4. I love how Nick genuinely loves others. Being a pastor means that you have a heart for others. I am always amazed how quickly he is able to help a friend, a neighbor, and even strangers. I might not tell him enough but this is something that is so attractive to me and a rare trait nowadays.
5. I am so thankful for how Nick pays attention to the little things. Every morning he gets up with the two older boys until me and Leo wake. When I get to the kitchen he always has a cup of coffee waiting for me in my tumbler. It is not something he has to do but it shows me that he cares about the little things. (Thanks, babe!)
6. Nick prays with the boys. Yes, I know he is a pastor and that is something you expect a pastor to do, pray. But I am thankful for the times I see him kneeling beside the boy's bunk beds and leading them in the Lord's Prayer or praying for the sick.
7. Nick goes to work every day and juggles two jobs. This allows me to be a stay-at-home mom and I am thankful that he gets up every single day to support us and then comes home to spend time with his family.
8. Parenting is a lot of work and is such a learning process. I am thankful that Nick and I are able to co-parent well and how he always asks me if we are both disciplining and training the boys the same way. Being on the same page is not only good for us but also for our kids who look up to us for guidance. and assurance.
9. Nick brings Calvin to school every T/Th (or my mom whom is also a life-saver) before work. He knows how easily I can get overwhelmed in the mornings with my PPA (postpartum anxiety) so his willingness to help me out in this way has taken a huge burden off of my shoulders.
10. This may seem obvious but Nick never shows our kids lack of love. He is always telling them how much he loves them and genuinely enjoys our kids (when they aren't testing our patience).
Most days I do not say thank you enough to him but since I know he will probably read and edit this post for me, I wanted to make sure he know he is LOVED and APPRECIATED. Be sure to tell your significant other how much you appreciate them for the little and the small things. I know it makes a world of a difference to me when I am shown appreciation and the same goes for Nick.
Happy Father's Day to all the dads and grandparents out there!