date nights.

Being a nursing mom to my second baby who refuses to take a bottle has its own share of challenges. There is nothing better than being the only one who can put your sweet baby down to bed at night. I love this responsibility and the joy it brings me, but it can also but a slight strain on your marriage. Date nights have and probably always will be so essential to our marriage. So once Max was eating some solids Nick and I took advantage of being able to go out on a date night before he had to be put to bed (we normally do date nights after 7pm once Max is asleep).

We are big fans of home date nights (less expensive, no babysitter needed, usually more relaxing because there is a lot less planning involved), but there is something to be said about actually changing out of your mom clothes and putting on some perfume for a night out on the town with your husband. Nick, knowing how much I like to be in the "know" about things, booked our tickets to see one of my favorite country bands several months in advance. This helped the mom in me mentally prepare in order to have a great night out being Nick and Gina and not exclusively mom and dad.

We left the house at 5:00 PM, but it wasn't until my mom called me at 7:30 PM to tell me that Max had gone to sleep just fine with no problems at all that I felt a weight lift off my shoulders and could finally enjoy this special time alone with Nick, kid free.

Nick opened the door for me, we got In-N-Out, drank a beer, held hands, kissed, talked, and loved each other. This was a night we needed. I had makeup on and a new flattering top and for once in a long time I felt like I was able to enjoy being married again. When we are at home and are in our familiar element it is too easy to get distracted with every cough or noise from our kids or finding a random toy where it isn't supposed to be. Being out and in a new place forced us to enjoy one another's company and we were able to talk in depth about all of those things we simply don't have time for on a daily basis. At least not during this brief phase of young child-rearing.

I wish I was able to let my guard down more and simply enjoy my husband when he pursues me, but sometimes it just doesn't happen. I am beyond thankful for a perfect evening of clear skies, 3 amazing bands (Sam Hunt, Hunter Hays, and Lady Antebellum), a hot husband, and an amazing family willing to provide us with free babysitting. Date nights are the heartbeat of our relationship because after having kids it has been one of the main ways we are able to reconnect. I did pump in the car on the way home...perfect way to end a hot date right?

I want to encourage you to get out of the house with your spouse if you can. I know it is expensive to find a sitter, and sometimes it's just not realistic depending on the age of your children, but it doesn't even have to be a nighttime date. Even an hour away to your favorite coffee house can be so rejuvenating not just for yourself, but for the sake of your marriage. If you are like me, one of the greatest daily struggles can be to remember that he was yours first before your kids.

I will leave you with some lyrics from Lady A:

Compass

So let your heart sweetheart be your compass when you're lost
And you should follow it wherever it may go
When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run
'Cause no matter what you'll never be alone
Never be alone
Never be alone

When it's all said and done you can walk instead of run
'Cause no matter what you'll never be alone

 

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Lady A left center stage and performed right next to our seats  

Lady A left center stage and performed right next to our seats  

No one in front of us, score!  

No one in front of us, score!  

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