I have two sons, a 3.5 year old and an 18 month old. Each of them bring unique challenges to the table. Depending on which side of the bed they wake up on, I daily have battles to handle and their different personalities can make things hard. Like any relationship, it takes time and experience to understand how each person works.
Here is a small synopsis of this month's challenges. Any tips you may have are more than welcome.
1. Max is always hungry. He eats almost every 30 minutes, all day long (minus his nap and bedtime). He will drag to me the towel that goes underneath his high chair and then point to his seat. If I don't get him into his chair fast enough and give him the food he wants he gives the worlds saddest pout and breaks my heart. The problem is he speaks very few words and it is a gamble trying to figure out exactly what he was in the mood for. Thankfully, he will eat just about anything but I wish he would use his words so I know what he is looking for. Although many moms would love that their kid wants to eat all day it's time consuming and exhausting serving and cleaning up after him so often. Despite his huge appetite he also has not gained much weight. He has always been in the 5% percentile and at 18 months still does not weigh 20 lbs.
2. Calvin is spoiled.......by his Nonna. I swore I would never be the mother who buys their child any toy they wants but Calvin has my mom wrapped around his finger. I am thankful that she is able to bless him with toy surprises but it puts pressure on me when we are at Target or doing errands because he assumes I will always say 'yes' like she does. Before we leave the house now I have to explain to him over and over again how we are going to only purchase what is on our list and not another Transformer or Paw Patrol action figure.
3. It is snake season in Southern California. My two biggest fears in life are 1) drowning to death and 2) snakes. As a little girl I rolled down a hill in my backyard and a snake slid across my back and that is where my fear of snakes began. My neighborhood has a Faceebook group and I keep seeing snake warnings and sightings. Nick keeps reminding me to check the bushes and the boys hideouts for snakes and I am so so so scared. I sadly make Calvin look from afar and throw rocks in areas to scare any potential snakes away because I think I would literally have a heart attack and die if I saw one. I seriously pray I never see one in my yard since I know would run for my life and pray my kids would follow behind me.
4. Daylight savings and its early sunrise time still has me all thrown off. We have black out curtains for the boys but not in our bedroom. Our boys internal clocks have been waking them earlier and they are up between 5:50- 6:30 AM everyday now. At around 4:55 AM I can sense the sun beginning to rise and even though it is not full blown out until 5:45 AM I am often woken up and have a hard time falling asleep. And if it was not the sun that woke me up it is all the baby sparrows hatching in the nest above our house and our neighbors. I know the early bird gets the worm but gosh can't they wait until 6 AM?
5. I have noticed this month how much more one-on-one time I give to Calvin over Max. When Calvin was a baby I would read to him non-stop. With Max I rarely read to him, minus right before bedtime. Since Calvin is starting preschool in the fall I give him a lot more attention when it comes to reading because he shows more interest and his books are more engaging. The other day Max handed me a chunk of books and sat on my lap to read to him and it broke my heart because I couldn't remember the last time I read just to him without Calvin. I need to remember that even though Max does not understand as much that he still needs that one on one time with me. Balancing two boys has been a smooth transition for me but now I am trying to figure out each of their personalities and how to best foster there imagination in ways that speak to them.
What has been challenging you this month? How do you handle daylight savings with your kids? What do you do to make sure each child gets the same amount of individual attention from you?